Sex Work Services & Extras

Sex workers often use the phrase ‘standard service’ to describe the basic or standard set of services the client is offered for a booking. Different workplaces and sex workers offer different services as part of their standard service. Even in the same workplace type, businesses can offer different services in their standard service.  For example, some brothels include a massage, oral and penetrative sex in the standard service whereas others may only include penetrative sex as the standard service.

On the other hand, ‘extras’ is used to define any services you provide outside of the standard service which may incur an additional charge, or may just need to be offered and/or requested. The type and price of extras you offer is up to you, however, be aware that some workplaces may not want you to offer specific ‘extras’ or any at all, or not allow you to charge extra for them.

It is important that before starting employment you discuss with your employer and are comfortable with the type and prices of the standard services and extras offered at your workplace. Additionally, if you feel comfortable, you can ask a trusted co-worker on their standard service, extras and prices. You can also call your local sex worker organisation for more information on rates, local standard services and extras.

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The sex industry has always been a place where clients can openly try out fantasies in a safe, confidential and non-judgmental environment, and sex workers can benefit financially from increasing the range of services that they provide. To assist you in your sex work services and extras, below is a list of services that can be provided as the standard service or an extra depending on your workplace, your co-workers, and your personal boundaries.

The list below contains the most common definitions of sex work services and extras frequently provided in Australia. However, depending on the state or territory you are working in, workplace type and individual business, the terms listed below may be interpreted differently by different people.  Therefore, it is recommended that you always clarify the services and extras you are talking about to ensure you are both on the same page.

Blowjobs

(oral on a penis, fellatio, giving head, sucking off and French)

There are many different terms for oral sex, and these vary between regions, so it is important to establish what your client is referring to, and what services you offer. It is common to differentiate between oral sex to ejaculation and oral sex as part of foreplay, for example a client may request “oral to completion” or “full French,” which generally means oral sex to ejaculation; “part French” is generally just oral stimulation. Conversely, in some areas “French” refers to oral without a condom and “oral” or “head” are used to describe oral with a condom. “Natural” and “bareback blowjob” (BBBJ) refer to oral sex without a condom. Some clients may request “cum in mouth” (CIM), “cum on face” (COF) or swallowing.

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It is advisable to use a condom when performing oral or when a client is performing oral on you. It’s especially important to use them if either of you have sores in your mouth or bleeding gums.

Use your mouth and tongue to stimulate the penis by sucking, licking and even delicate biting (be careful not to let your teeth break the condom). Perform oral from a position where you’re in control of the speed and depth of penetration. Avoid skin to skin contact with the unprotected areas of your client’s genitals. For example, when you are performing oral sex, try not to let your lips touch the genital area not covered by the condom.

Using a condom will protect you from HIV and other STIs like gonorrhoea and chlamydia. However, although unlikely, it is possible to transfer herpes, gonorrhoea and chlamydia from your genitals to your throat via the condom or vice versa (though transferring bacteria from your throat to your genitals is even more unlikely). For this reason, if you are performing oral sex, it is important you request an oral swab when getting an STI check and you may want to change the condom when you go from oral to penetrative sex or vice versa. Additionally, there is a risk of Syphilis and Herpes being transmitted beyond the area where the condom covers the penis, such as around the genital area. Look out for scratches or sores to avoid blood contact. If you are stimulating the areas behind the testes, avoid mouth contact with faeces. There is a risk of hepatitis A infection as well as intestinal infections. Cover these areas of skin by using a dam, or cut a condom up the middle and flatten it out, to protect yourself.

Please note: In some states and territories there is a legal requirement to using prophylactics, such as condoms and dams, for all services. Fines may apply to performing or receiving oral or penetrative sex without protection. Find out from your local sex worker group where this applies.

Body Contact Massage

(erotic massage and body slide)

This type of massage excites the client through direct body to body contact. The client lies face down on the bed and you straddle them, sitting on top of their bum. Slowly you press and move or slide your body over their back. If you press firmly the client will feel your breasts, nipples and/or penis. It may make the service more erotic if you make ‘sexy’ noises. Some workers use powder or massage cream to provide slip. Later, turn them over and do the same to their chest. Teasing the genital area with your nipples or genitals, or sucking their nipples, may add to the excitement. Provided no bodily fluids are exchanged there’s no risk of HIV transmission, but other STIs can be transmitted from skin to skin contact. Some sex workers like to provide a massage or body slide service as a prelude to oral sex or intercourse to encourage the client to relax and be really turned on before providing other services. Make sure you clean off any non-water based massage oil before condoms are used, as oil makes latex and polyisoprene condoms tear easily.

BDSM

Bondage & Discipline (B&D, B/D, BD), Domination & Submission (D&s, D/s, Ds), Sadomasochism (S&M, S/M, SM)

Some sex workers offer ‘light’ BDSM services, such as handcuffs, spanking and humiliation, and others offer extensive or ‘heavy’ BDSM services. You should seek proper training before attempting ‘heavier’ bondage and discipline (B&D) and/or sadomasochistic (S&M) activities. Sex worker organisations sometimes run workshops on these practices. You might also be able to arrange to train under a professional master or dominatrix.

In BDSM, body control and the use of pain and pleasure, either physical or psychological, arouses the client. Some sex workers provide domination or submission and some provide both (switch). The client may seek to be dominant, or submissive – this is negotiated prior to the booking starting. BDSM scenarios might include a bottom, submissive or slave who relinquishes control to a top, master or mistress, dominatrix and is subjected to ‘play’ using intimidation and power. Whips, floggers, rope, canes, paddles, ball weights, and nipple clamps are some examples of the kinds of equipment that may be used.

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A ‘safe word’ is an agreed word used when someone wants an activity or the session to end.  ‘Safe words’ should be agreed upon in advance and should be something that is unlikely to be said during sex, like ‘cabbage’ or ‘aeroplane’ – words like ‘stop’ or ‘don’t’ could be misunderstood as part of the fantasy. Different words may be used to specify whether a person wants an activity or the whole session to cease. When a safe word is called out, all activity should be stopped immediately and the person’s needs should be attended to.

The room may be decorated like a dungeon, creating an atmosphere, however ‘light’ BDSM services are often just added into a sex work session at an extra cost. Some clients enjoy being enclosed in cages or wearing hoods to create a feeling of claustrophobia. Latex or leather clothing encasing the body and the smell of these materials can add to the excitement. The scope for invention is only limited by the client’s tolerance and your imagination!

Masochism is (sexual) gratification gained from pain, deprivation and humiliation. Masochism is pleasure from having it ‘done’ to oneself, whereas sadism is getting off on ‘doing it’ to another person. Some of the equipment used are whips, ice, candle wax, electric probes, heat cream such as Dencorub on genitals, catheters, needles/piercing (permanent and impermanent or ‘play piercings’), branding and pin wheels. Degradation describes acts ordered by the dominant to humiliate the submissive and may involve verbal humiliation or insults, being forced to eat or drink urine, faeces or cigarettes, or lick feet, or behave like a dog or a baby.

Just like everything else, BDSM can be safe from STI and BBV infection or it can be a transmission risk, depending on what you do and the equipment you’re using – your equipment may pose an infection risk if you share the equipment with other people or if it cannot be cleaned and sterilised properly. Cleaning equipment (such as leather or rubber) may be difficult depending what it is made from as cracks, grooves and joints can harbour bacteria and viruses, or equipment may perish from cleaning or sterilising. Where possible single use disposable equipment or using a barrier method (a latex sheath/condom) is preferred. Keep a separate set of toys for use on yourself, if you’re offering a submissive role. Where piercing or other bloodletting acts are part of a ‘scene’, follow the rules of injecting drug use: never share equipment between individuals and always use new or sterilised equipment.

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All BDSM equipment must be cleaned and disinfected if it is to be reused. Cleaning will reduce the number of bacteria but will not eliminate all of them nor be active against viruses or fungi. Cleaning involves water and soap (detergent) and a physical or mechanical action for washing (e.g. scrubbing). Disinfection kills more microorganisms, though not all, and involves using chemicals such as bleach, alcohol or Viraclean and the effectiveness will depend on the equipment, the contamination and contact/soaking time with the chemical. Talking about cleaning and disinfecting the equipment with the manufacturer of the product may be helpful. Always rinse equipment after disinfecting.

Equipment which will not tolerate immersion (for example, some vibrators and leather equipment) should be cleaned by wiping with detergent and water and then disinfected by wiping with either a solution of one part bleach to two parts water, or 70% alcohol, then rinsed and allowed to dry prior to use.

In order to avoid transmission of hepatitis C, HIV and other blood borne infections, disposable razors and razor blades must be disposed of after being used once. ‘Cutthroat’ razors, scalpels and piercing tools must be sterilised after use with each client.

Sterilisation is the process of killing all microorganisms on equipment and there are many methods. This is the best process if equipment is at risk of contamination with blood and potentially virus. An autoclave is often used for this purpose.

Cross Dressing

Clients may request services including cross dressing. Cross dressing refers to getting dressed as the opposite sex, which may arouse the client or be part of their sexual fantasy. Like all services, clients will have their own ideas on what this might involve, for example, men may wear bras or lingerie under their everyday clothes, or wish to wear women’s clothing during a booking. Some clients bring their own items of clothing whilst others expect the worker to provide outfits and ‘train’ them in feminine mannerisms and treat them as a woman.

Cunnilingus

(oral on a vagina, licking, going down and eating out)

Cunnilingus refers to using your mouth and tongue to stimulate the clitoris and vagina, which can include using the tongue for penetration. It can be helpful to ask how the receiver likes to be orally stimulated. Even if a person has HIV, there is not enough of the virus in the vaginal fluid to transmit HIV, so the risk of catching HIV by ‘going down’ on them is small. However, if they have their period, oral sex is riskier because of the contact with menstrual blood. Herpes, Gonorrhoea, HPV, Syphilis and Chlamydia can also be transmitted by unprotected oral sex. To prevent transmission of infection, use a dam or cut a condom up the middle and flatten it out over the genital area. Putting water-based lube on the vaginal area before placing a dam on top may increase the sensations, as well as help to keep the dam in place.

Doubles

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A doubles booking refers to a booking with two sex workers and a client. Usually, the client will use words such as gay, lesbian, bi or trans to specify the type of booking they want. A ‘bi’ booking may be two workers of the same sex having sex with each other and a client of the opposite sex, or one worker having sex with a heterosexual couple. ‘Bi’ is also sometimes used to describe a female sex worker providing services to a female client. A ‘lesbian double’ may mean two female workers having sex in front of or with a client; it may also include two female workers faking or simulating sex. A ‘gay double’ may mean two male workers having sex in front of or with a client. ‘Straight double’ usually refers to two workers of the same sex, and a client of the opposite sex, where there is no sexual contact between the workers.

Whenever there are more than two people in a booking, you should change condoms and dams each time a partner is changed. For example, don’t let a client penetrate one worker and then the other, without changing the condom in between. A good tip is for each worker to use a different coloured condom: this will make it easier to identify when a condom needs to be changed between partners and when changing between anal, oral and vaginal sex. Use gloves, condoms and/or dams to protect yourself and your client and be aware of the risk of skin-to-skin infections during other contact.

Enemas

An enema is liquid inserted into the rectum (anus) to cause a bowel movement. Enemas are distinguished from anal douching, as the latter refers to the process of cleaning out the rectum whereas enemas clean further into the lower intestines. However, like anal douching, enemas can be used to clean out the bowels before anal sex.  Some people also find enemas to be very erotic. When people use enemas for sexual purposes, this is often referred to as enema play.

Ideally enemas should be lukewarm water with nothing else added, and can be administered with a large syringe or enema bag and tube. Only add as much water as comfortable; you can always do another enema, if necessary. Commercial enemas and disposable enemas are available from pharmacies.

Cold water enemas can cause intestinal cramping, and if the enema is too hot it could cause internal burning. Never use alcohol in an enema, because enemas are absorbed directly into the bloodstream. Additionally, using chlorinated tap water for the enema solution may impact the bacterial balance in the colon.

Enemas clean out everything in the rectum, so it’s important to use plenty of lube afterwards as it will also flush out the natural lubricant produced by the anus. It is strongly suggested that you ask more experienced workers to teach you how to perform enemas safely, or discuss it with your local sex worker organisation.

If a condom breaks while having anal sex, do not use enemas to flush out the sperm, as it will push any bodily fluids carrying infection further into the body. Additionally, while enemas give temporary relief to bowel obstruction and constipation, if used on a regular basis, it can cause damage to the delicate lining of the lower bowels.

For more information and tips on safer enemas, see Anal Health.

Erotic talk

(dirty talk)

Some clients are sexually aroused by sexy or rude/explicit language and noises associated with the sex act. You can build up your repertoire by calling pre-recorded phone sex lines (or live phone sex operators), or borrowing stories and words from online, porn magazines and movies, or by making up your own.

Fingering, Fisting, Fist-fucking

(in the anus or the vagina)

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This involves inserting the fingers, the hand, or more, into the vagina or anus. Unprotected and/or unlubricated fist-fucking or fingering is riskier for the receiver, as it can tear the lining of the vagina or anus. If you are the receiver, encourage your partner to insert slowly and smoothly to prevent damage. Use plenty of suitable lubricant and check that fingernails are trim and smooth, as they can scratch and cut the receivers’ insides without them being aware of it, or use gloves to prevent scratches and cuts. Wash your hands thoroughly before and after this practice to avoid transmission of Hepatitis A. Using a latex, Polyurethane or nitrile glove (for fisting) or finger cot (for fingering) significantly reduces the risk of HIV and STI transmission. Gloves can also create a smoother surface, which can make fisting more comfortable for the receiver. Take care that you don’t touch bodily fluids when removing the gloves.

French Kissing

(tongue kissing)

Lengthy kissing using your lips and tongue will slowly tease and arouse the client. There is very little risk of HIV transmission because saliva cannot transmit HIV. However, the risk of transmission is elevated if there are cuts in the mouths of both parties. Flossing and brushing your teeth can cause bleeding in the gums, so it is best to avoid this prior to seeing clients. Kissing can transmit herpes if one partner has cold sores, blisters or scabs on the mouth or lips and people who are referred to as ‘asymptomatic shedders’ can still transmit the virus, even if the herpes is not visible. Glandular fever and syphilis can also be transmitted by kissing. Kissing is also very low risk for transmitting chlamydia and gonorrhoea, but it is possible if other factors are present like a cold sore or abrasion.

Full Service

Full service can mean different things for different people. Generally, full service refers to penetrative sex. However, depending on your location and workplace type, ‘full service’ can also be used to refer to oral and penetrative sex. It is recommended you clarify what you mean by ‘full service’ when referring to this type of service.

Golden showers (urine) and brown showers/scat play (poo)

Faeces (poo) can transmit Hepatitis A and can also give you other infections such as Urinary Tract Infections and urine and faeces can cause severe intestinal infections. Avoid getting urine or faeces on your hands by wearing gloves; or in your mouth, vagina or anus by using condoms and/or dams.

Group sex

(orgies, gangbang and threesome)

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Make sure you use a new condom or dam each time you have oral, vaginal or anal sex with each different partner. Everybody should agree in advance and be watchful to ensure that there are no slip ups. If you are involved in a group booking with one or more other sex workers, it might be helpful to have a code-phrase (for example, “I need to freshen my lipstick”) that can be used to signify that you need to take a break. It is perfectly acceptable to take time out during longer or more intense sessions.

Hand Relief

(jacking off, pulling off and hand job)

Clients requesting a hand job enjoy having their penis and testes fondled, squeezed and rubbed. Giving or receiving a hand job is low risk when there are no breaks in the skin or around the nails. If you have a sore or blister on your hand, wear gloves or put a condom on the penis to protect yourself from infection, use your other hand or at least cover the wound with a band aid. Point the penis away from eyes during ejaculation if condoms are not being used.

Role Play

Role playing involves acting out a different character or personality in a fantasy session. For example, you may role play the patient while your client role plays the doctor, or you may role play a dominant teacher while your client role plays the naughty student, or you can start as one character and swap roles throughout the session. Using outfits and props (such as handcuffs, whips or stethoscopes) can assist you and your client embody the characters you are playing.

Sex Toys

(dildos, butt plugs, vibrators, etc.)

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Sex toys can be a vehicle for the transmission of STIs and BBVs. It’s best to use your own personal sex toys on yourself (you know where they’ve been!) and clean them with warm, soapy water (or boil silicone, metal and glass toys). Keep the toys you use on clients separate. If you share your toys with others, always use them with a condom. If you are using a dildo on different parts of your body, such as your anus, vagina and mouth, make sure you use a new condom each time, as infection-causing bacteria and viruses can be passed between your anus, vagina and throat.

Spanish

(between the tits)

Spanish is when a client rubs their penis and usually ejaculates in between your breasts. Sometimes Spanish is provided while the client remains on their back and the worker slides their breasts over the penis. Condoms are suggested for Spanish but, if not used, position yourself to prevent cum going into your eyes, because the mucous membranes in your eyes can be an entrance for the HIV to penetrate.  Although it is low risk for STIs and HIV to be transmitted through semen coming into contact with your skin (semen and/or precum that is carrying infections needs to come into contact with a mucus membrane to transmit bacteria and viruses), try to not allow semen or pre-cum to touch any open sores, pimples, scratches or blisters on your skin as they can provide an entry point for infections into your bloodstream. Pierced nipples, if newly pierced or infected, are another possible avenue of infection. Additionally, hepatitis B can be transmitted by bodily fluids carrying the infection, such as semen and pre-cum, entering your body. Herpes, molluscum contagiosum, and other skin-to-skin STIs can be transmitted during Spanish.

Voyeurism

Voyeurism is a visual stimulus and a powerful turn on. The client watches, and may masturbate, while you strip, pose, masturbate, or perform a sex show with another worker. You could have the client peeking through a window from the back yard, or they could be on a chair on the other side of the room while you’re on the bed, pretending they’re not there.

Webcamming

In webcamming, you perform erotic acts in front of your webcam while your client/s watches on their own computer. The client may make requests (via text or voice input), or you might just perform whatever you want.